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Title: The Honeymoon Stage
Category: dont know
Blog Entry: Everybody knows about the honeymoon stage. The time varies for different relationships, but we don't realize it's over until it's gone. All of a sudden you're hanging up the phone with saying I love you, the pet names are reserved for cards which you're lucky to get on your birthday, and not only is he not opening doors for you anymore, he's forgetting you're even walking behind him as onlookers hide their laughter when you get smacked in the face by glass. You go to buy him his "favorite" candy bar, Butterfinger, only to give it him and it dawns on you when you see that funny look on his face...he's allergic to peanut butter.How do we prevent our relationships from becoming routine? We don't. It's bound to happen sooner or later, the real question is, what do we do when we realize it's gotten to that point? For some people they thrive off routines and schedules, relationships are just something else to get penciled into their day planner anyhow. But the there's the hopeless romantics. The one's who fell for music in a coffee shop, suprise visits to their work, flowers when they least expected it, and personal little notes hidden to be discovered later. Those are the people who begin to rethink their relationship and wonder if they're really with the right person. What happened to the guy who stood outside their window after a big fight with their song blared from the car stero, and where did that guy go who would show up at their doorstep at the most crucial moment with a pizza and chick flick in hand.For those of you who want back the man who was faithful but has cheated, was honest but can't stop lying, or never laid a hand on you but now you wear the wrong color and you're getting back handed; this isn't for you. That'll come later. This is for those who feel that the romance and the little things have died away. What can you do to get it back? You don't want to say anything because you just want him to figure it out on his own....he's not going to! You can do things for him and hope he returns the favor, and maybe that'll work at first, but not for long. You can't be subtle with your men because they're not going to get it! What you can do is trigger memories out of the blue. You pop in an old CD and put on a song that brings back floods of the past..."remember that time we...." You might have to prompt it, but you're going to get what you want. You don't want to have to tell him what to do, you want the sentiment. Of course it sucks that you have to be the one to do it, half the fun is not being the one to think of it. But sorry ladies...it's up to you! Keep it up for a while, go back to an old restaurant you haven't been to in a while.....and if he really isn't getting it and it's really that important, suck it up and talk to him. Guys really don't think the same way we do, and you have to be clear about it. So tell him you miss the old days, don't be afraid to share that you'd love if he remembered something and brought it up to you. See where it goes...if it goes nowhere....then maybe you'll want to stick around for the more serious blog.