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Title: Bring Me Up Tear Me Down
Category: lonely
Blog Entry: He showed up with a bouqet of your favorite flowers, and thank God he did otherwise he was not being let back in the house. It was one thing to be upset, it was a complete other to smash a glass against the wall. And all over a lunch date with your best friend who happens to be a male. You've been best friends since high school and there's never been anything there, it's a well known fact.UIt makes you start to think...but you let it slide when he shows up at the door. Then you feel like the guilty one, he loves you, and is your friendship really more important that he is? That's how it starts. Before you know it you're avoiding your friends, and then questions from your family, and then you're isolated from your4 job.Maybe it starts off even smaller, with deragatory words that you believe are just his sense of humor. However it starts, it'll most likely end up in the same place. Bruises you tell people are from running into doors, doctors visits, and heavy cover up.More than likely women are well educated on domestic violence, and yet the only time we can't recognize it is when it's our own situation. And by the time we realize it we're in too deep. So aside from knowing how to see the warning signs (that we're familiar with but too blind to recognize), we need to know what to do next. When you have no family or friends anymore and he barely lets you out of his sight.What he doesn't know is that you have a secret weapon. Your hair stylist. All you need is one minute alone to signal that there's a problem, and if they're not already involved in a program you can tell them about one just for them to help. *Cut It Out* is what it's called. Just don't let on, it's hard. And if you have problems even getting to your stylist, make it seem like it was his idea. More than likely he's already on a power trip pushing you around. So you need a special event: a holiday, birthday, anniversary, anything, coming up. Mention it, and how you want to look good to make him look good (you'll be lying about that part) and how youo're really not capable of doing anything great yourself (which he'll probably agree with because he's an asshole you tells you that all the time.) You should be in!