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Title: The Element of Surprise
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Blog Entry: Ready guys? I'm going to let you in on a little secret about us...we like surprises. Now unfortunately for you, that could mean about a million different things. You didn't really think it was going to be that easy did you? If you did, you may want to consider starting at square one.For the rest of you I'll attempt to break it down a little more for you. Category one: the unsupriser. THe guy who really has no clue how to go about this foreign concept of "surprise". Baby steps for you my friend. Start by listening more carefully because chances are you don't even know where to begin. Listen for her favorite things and places, it's pretty easy.Need me to break it down more? Ok, but only because you're truly a novice. She mentions some place she hasn't been in a while...take her. You always pick the movie you guys see? Let her pick. For the intermediate surpriser If you're feeling really brave? She's secretly bummed you can't dance? Learn. These can be small surprises just to see that smile on her face, or they could actually be relationship savers down the road.Category two, the guys who do the small things and it's just not cutting it. First of all, what's your idea of the small things? Because if remembering to put the toilet seat down constitutes as a small thing, move up a paragraph because you need help. If you're buying flowers randomly, cooking dinner for her, and remembering important dates, you're safe. Either she's satisfied, or she's need and needs big things once a week. Accomodating the high maintenance sounds like a personal problem...er, I mean choice?Category three, the overzealous. Those of you who drive an hour out of your way to wait an hour in your car for her to get out of work just to bring her dinner before her class fifteen minutes later...you're either trying too hard on purpose or you really think that's the way to her heart. I'd use the word pathetic but there are girls who like this kind of attention (refer back to: high maintenance). If she's not that kind of girl, you've already lost her. Especially if you've only been dating a week. After a year and you're trying to save your relationship and prove you care? That's a different story and you have free license to be as pathetic as you can possibly muster without losing your manhood altogether. *Sidenote: this kind of attention is also ok once in a great while, but this is just a reference to an extreme case for the purpose of this article*It's a science and only you can truly what know what's needed, but even the girl who's happy with nothing and gave up on being surprised will be rendered speechless bu the small something. For the guy who as a gift on date two bought her your favorite movie because she wanted to watch it for that exact reason, you know what you're doing. But be careful, that could be the very moment she falls for you. And if you don't expect to be able to catch her, just be careful. If you want to sweep her off her feet with the element of surprise and she tells you she's afraid of falling, just tell her you have wings....